I find myself often wondering what I did to deserve the amazing husband that I have.? At my very worst his love is always strong and it never wavers.? When I don’t deserve compassion and understanding, he still gives it to me.? If I’ve made a mistake, no matter the size, he doesn’t find the fault and point it out to make me feel worse.? He helps me to heal, learn from it and move on.

I know that he loves me, he always has.? What I didn’t realize was that all those great things that he tells me about myself to lift me up in private, he says to other people.? I knew he didn’t bad mouth me or make fun of me to his friends or other people.? That’s just not his way.? I just didn’t know that he says such nice things about me when I’m not around.?

I was actually told by a complete stranger how my husband talks about me to people.? I received an early Valentine’s present this year and it came from someone I have never met.? Her name is Traci and she can be found at The Mom Entrepreneur. .??

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?To see the beautiful gift she gave me just click here http://themomentrepreneur.blogspot.com/2009/01/early-valentines-day-gift-for-one-mom.html.? Thank you so much Traci.

I received this as an email from my husband and got a good laugh out of it.? I thought I would pass it along and share it with all of you.? Enjoy.

My Dear Wife,
You will surely understand that I have certain needs that you, being 54 years old, can no longer satisfy. I am very happy with you and I value you as a good wife. Therefore, after reading this letter, I hope that you will not wrongly interpret the fact that I will be spending the evening with my 18 year old secretary at the Comfort Inn Hotel. Please don’t be upset, I shall be home before midnight.

When the man came home late that night, he found the following letter on the dining room table:

My Dear Husband,
I received your letter and thank you for your honesty about my being 54 years old. I would like to take this opportunity to remind you that you are also 54 years old. As you know, I am a math teacher at our local college. I would like to inform you that while you read this, I will be at the Hotel Fiesta with Michael, one of my students, who is also the assistant tennis coach. He is young, virile, and like your secretary, is 18 years old. As a successful businessman who has an excellent knowledge of math, you will understand that we are in the same situation, although with one small difference – 18 goes into 54 a lot more times than 54 goes into 18. Therefore, I will not be home until sometime tomorrow.

I just found this so entertaining that I had to share. This is actually called “How To Be A Good Wife”. It is taken from a Home Economics high school text book from 1954. I would love to see some comments left about this one and find out what any of you think about it. Try not to get too angry about it and just enjoy a good laugh.

Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal, on time. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospect of a good meal are part of the warm welcome needed.

Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so that you’ll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your makeup, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people. Be a little gay and a little more interesting. His boring day may need a lift.

Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the home just before your husband arrives, gather up schoolbooks, toys, paper, etc. Then run a dust cloth over the tables. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift, too.

Prepare the children. Take a few minutes to wash the children’s hands and faces (if they are small), comb their hair, and if necessary change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part.

Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer, dishwasher, or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet. Be happy to see him. Greet him with a warm smile and be glad he is home.

Some don’ts: Don’t greet him with problems or complaints. Don’t complain if he is late for dinner. Count this as minor compared with what he might have gone through that day.
Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or suggest he lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him. Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soft, soothing and pleasant voice. Allow him to relax and unwind.

Listen to him. You may have a dozen things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first.

Make the evening his. Never complain if he does not take you out to dinner or to other places of entertainment. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure, his need to be home and relax.

The Goal: Try to make your home a place of peace and order where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit.